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On Monday I had a sudden craving for tomato. Not in salad or anything, just a whole tomato, to eat like a peach. I thought it was peculiar, but I indulged the craving that night, and these two nights since. Tomatoes are delicious whole, but messy. There is only one person I’ve ever known to enjoy biting into a ripe tomato, eating its juicy entirety - my brother Malik.

This week marks nine years since he left us, and I suppose my subconscious is reminding me of this. I’ve also felt inclined this week to hear live jazz, another fitting remembrance of him. I still struggle with the regret of failing to love him better, and I’m anxious to understand what an involved and tender love looks like with the brothers and sisters I have remaining.

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A recollection of 9/11

It struck me a couple months back, talking to the girls I mentor, that despite growing up in its shadow, many kids today don’t really have a sense of what 9/11 was, what it meant, what it means.

I remember the day well. I was coming out of first period English class when I got news that the first plane had struck. Students and teachers huddled around TVs, excited, hushed, then horrified. My little sister came to me crying and I held her as we tried to get our young minds around it all.

School got out early the afternoon and when I got home I joined my neighbor Bekah on her porch swing. We sat there in silence mostly. We lived in Anacostia, between Bowling and Andrews Air Force Bases and there was a constant traffic of planes and helicopters overhead, presaging the shock and awe to come.

That night I couldn’t sleep. I ached quietly for those we’d lost, and for the people who’d feel their loss most agonizingly. I ached, too, for what we would lose. Young as I was, I remember having a clear sense of what the events of that day meant. 

I was heartbroken in anticipation. 

I new that the terror was just beginning; that these next years could be dark ones for high ideals at home, and hellish ones for anonymously-brown people in places invisible to our moral esteem.

At school on September 12th, we were invited to share reflections on the moment we were living through. I shared a poem I’d scrawled on notepaper the uneasy night before. It appeared in the Washington Post’s 9/11 memorial centerfold the next week.

I only really recall the opening verse:

That majestic pair,

The twin towers, 

Symbols of power’s mighty swell, 

Cowered in jet plane’s rough embrace, 

Then crumbled and fell.

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Dave, some years on

It’s two years on now and I still miss you, of course. I did my taxes early this year, in February in fact; April still feels like loss a little. I’ve been trying to write your parents a letter but I still don’t have the words. I never really understood until after you left, how many bridges you’d burned and people you’d hurt. You were trying to make good though I think. The poem I wrote you still applies; I’m still working on the laughter and music and irreverence, and the seriousness too.

i won’t mourn you in the way that movies tell us to,
you were always so aware of cliché.

i have a few tears for you,
but mostly i have jokes,
and most of them racy and off-colour.

we were learning how to face life together,
and most of what we’d figured out so far,
involved laughter, irreverence and music.

we were learning how to be serious too though,
so it came as a surprise to me,
that you left during tax season.

we shared ambitions so unreasonable,
that we spoke of them in code,
and sometimes we were forced to scale them back.

we were supposed to finish piecing together,
you know, next week, when we both had time,
our theory of unconventional kindness.

i will remember you as you were,
that night when you tried to kiss that girl,
at the Black Cat,
and failed.

wildly inappropriate, brilliant, searching.

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Satin Doll

I went to Christian McBride’s tribute to Herbie Hancock last night and it reminded me of you, Malik. I miss the sound of your trumpet.

I know there were some good times before we became strangers and I wish I could remember them better, like when we used to serenade mom in the kitchen while she cooked.

After the concert tonight, I went to the CoHo and ordered the Satin Doll. It is the only food I ever eat there, mostly because of the name; Satin Doll the song was a favorite of yours. Today would have been your 26th birthday.