Most people do not listen with the intent to understand; they listen with the intent to reply. They’re either speaking or preparing to speak. They’re filtering everything through their own paradigms, reading their autobiography into other people’s lives.
Dr. Stephen Covey (1932- )
Something I’m trying to do better at, listening, understanding, digesting vs preparing a reply. A major threat to the development of an intellect like mine, alongside laziness and a facility for wrapping even faulty ideas in elegant words, is the need to be clever and be heard which threatens the real goal of understanding more and better.